Divorces are caused by domestic violence, affairs, trust issues, different feelings, and the biggest factor, money. Healthy marriages have proven that they help both partners mentally and physically. Also, growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems. The marriage rates are extremely high in the United States, but unfortunately so are the divorce rates. Statistics show that 90% of individuals in Western cultures marry before the age of 50 years old. On the contrary, 40 to 50% of those couples divorce. It is bad enough for some families to separate and not be solidified anymore, but children find it extremely difficult and frustrating to meld with their parents new spouse, they don't feel the same connection, in some cases, I honestly wouldn't blame them.
Just my perspective, I feel as if there is a lack of trust in today's society; morals have changed. Our generation has lost the value of romance, the value of trust, the value of conversation, and sadly small talk is the new deep. My great-grandparents would tell me, if something isn't working out, you make it work. There are many hurdles in relationships, and getting over them makes it that much stronger.
I agree with you that certain values and morals seem to have been lost. Social interaction has changed. People like whatever's easiest and good in the now, without thinking much of the future. Is society to blame for the divorce rates? In the past it was strongly frowned upon because of more traditional, conservative values. I'd like to think that people were afraid to divorce in the past and so they now, will not take the abuse they're experiencing and now choose to free themselves of a toxic relationship because they feel comfortable enough to. Society no longer tells them that it is wrong. However, I believe that marriage involves commitment and people should genuinely commit to each other. They should be honest about what both of them want, in the now and in the future. People change, but I think they can still stay together and grow, into a new love that's stronger. However, each relationship is different and involves different circumstances so it may not be the case in every situation.
ReplyDeleteAlso, in the past people were married at a younger age; they grew up together in a way. Did couples had a better understanding of each other and appreciation of each other because of that? I don't know. I do agree with you, that hurdles are involved in relationships and they may strengthen them. Maybe patience is what has been lost and understanding. If people were more patient, they would have a better understanding of others.